The moment you look at the eyes of someone who occupies a position of power and authority, you can often uncover something very important. This one facial feature and the personality trait it signifies can tell you volumes about how they interact with other people.
The personality trait—their need for control. Where you see it—right above their eyes.
Take a few deep breaths and look at these “eye” photos (links) here.
You may recognize these folks or you may not. It doesn’t matter. But you will notice they all have one facial feature in common…you can’t see eyelids.
Why? The skin right above their eyes and below their eyebrows is pulled tight across their eyes as it approaches the side of their face.
That telltale “tight” skin is what we’re looking at.
On people who have the need for “high control” this skin tends to be both somewhat thin and also fairly taut so that it “cuts the corner” of the eyes. You might also notice that the lower edge of the skin has a rather straight “sharp” edge to it.
Take a look at the bottom-most image above. That’s my eye.
Notice how the skin is both thin and tight? Notice how it cuts across my eye concealing my eyelid? Notice how that the lower edge is also very straight?
That’s what high control looks like. Don’t forget it.
Why? Because (1) about one-fourth of the world’s population has it and (2) it’s what I call a “high-impact trait.” That is, it significantly influences many aspects of the carrier’s life. (That’s why I discuss Control in great detail in my book In Your Face.)
At this level—when the skin above the eye is pulled tightly like this—it means the individual has a powerful, irrepressible need (and ability) to control their environment and experience…that is, just about any situation they find themselves in, the people they interact with and even their own behavior, thoughts and emotions. (They are often highly self-disciplined.)
You know what high-control people are like, right? If they care about what’s going on, they very often want to dictate how things will be done. If they have certain ideas how things should be handled, they also have a difficult time letting others handle them the way they want to.
There are other traits attached to this high need, too. For example, even when they don’t need to be, high-control people tend to be secretive. By nature they just tend to keep their business to themselves, figuring it’s no one else’s concern.
Think of them as mysterious. They keep secrets very, very well…especially their own. They are so good at that, in fact, that they are able to hide things from themselves they don’t want to look at, including things that anyone else might easily see. Call it denial.
There is much to say about the facial trait we call Control. For that reason no doubt we’ll return to it in future blogs.
For right now, I suggest you practice seeing high control in others. And take a look at your own need for control. Do your eyes resemble those pictured here? Or is your need for control less than theirs? Is your skin above your eyes looser?
The In Your Face face reading method reveals so much. What are you uncovering in people these days? What would you like to see?
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